Wednesday night the kids were getting ready to go to bed and I was painting the living room. The had bathed and were giving dad some good night kisses. Awnna went upstairs and Colin was trying to "help me." After a minute or so I told him to head up stairs. He took a few steps turned back and said, "daddy you're a good painter."
I melted. Of course he doesn't really know the difference between a good and bad painter. But I will talk a comment like that from my son.
He really is a "words of affirmation" kid. If you have read Gary Chapmans book, "The Five Love Languages" then you know what I am talking about. If not go to amazon and buy it. Annwa is a quality time girl, Dara is acts of service. Once you read the book you begin to understand how important it is for a person to "feel" loved from others in the way that they process love.
For a quality time person, acts of service might be nice, but it isnt what you really long for. You want undivided attention. For an Acts of Service person, you might feel like quality time s just a waste of time, since "nothing is getting done."
So finding out yours and your families love language is very important. It is very interesting...
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i've heard those love language descriptions somewhere else before but it wasn't from Gary Chapman, it was from a married couple who organized marriage seminars. i wonder where the terminology originated from? either way, doesn't matter, the message is getting out there and i think they are very useful principles.
I have to agree with Colin, the living room looks great!
Oh, yeah, the book is good too! :)
Chapman is where I first heard about it. Who knows maybe he got it from somewhere, but he does have a book that has been out for some time. Great read no matter where you are in relationships.
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